Welcome to Thirst Inventory, a new series where I’ll ask guests all about their sexual origins and plumb the depths of their erotic minds. It’s like the Ask A Sub version of The Proust Questionnaire… but filthy!
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This week I sat down with the one and only Gabriela Herstik, whose book GODDESS ENERGY, which guides readers to awaken the Goddess within through spells, rituals, meditations, embodiment practices, and journal prompts, is out now. You can buy it here.
Gabriela Herstik is a sex witch, slut priestess, and author whose work centers witchcraft, sexuality, and the Goddess. Gabriela’s work spans genres, including multiple books, a tarot deck, a podcast, essays and articles, performance art, visuals and more, all that live at the intersection of the esoteric and erotic. Gabriela teaches classes on how to create a devotional relationship to the Goddess, how to work with kink and bdsm in sex magick, how to work with the angelic alongside the shadow, and more. Gabriela is also on Only Fans as “Erotic Oracle.”
How do you identify?
I am a submissive non-monogamous, Jewish Mexican witch and Goddess devotee, whose work and life is in devotion to the Goddess of Love and Lust. I was raised in the Bible Belt of suburban Georgia, though I originally hail from Southern California and have been back in Los Angeles for nearly 8 years.
What does “desire” mean to you? How do you access this feeling and connect to what excites you?
Desire is the lifeblood of my eroticism and creativity, It is a deep, visceral longing I have in my body and heart. Desire is what drives me and consumes me. It’s what feeds into my obsessions. Desire isn’t something I will ever obtain, I don’t think, because it’s a chase. I access desire by allowing inspiration to wrap its sweet and visceral tendrils around me; wherever it pulls me, I have no choice but to succumb. I invite in desire through self-love and self-lust. Through allowing myself to be safe within my body, to celebrate this, to feel good in this. When I foster this energy, it’s like I’ve plugged back into myself. From there, I let the things that excite me take hold of me. I allow my curiosity to make itself known. I allow this to fire up my soul. That way, I am open to being seduced by the universe, myself, by daddy, or my work. Inspiration, desire, and obsession are my muses .
At what age did you first come online as a sexual being? What happened?
I was 14 or 15-years old when I aesthetically reclaimed my sexuality online. I remember taking photos in a cropped Union Jack top from Urban Outfitters and some booty shorts. I was in the bathroom of my childhood home. The shirt showed off my shoulder, collar bone, and stomach. The shorts sat low on my waist. I remember feeling so cool, so empowered, so ME. I remember posting these photos on Tumblr and Lookbook. I had never done anything like that, and it led to my love affair with wearing slutty outfits- because my outfits got (and continue to get) much, much sluttier. I also remember posting photos of my ass on Tumblr, and then once social media began and I turned 18, it was over for you bitches.
What's a memory from your own erotic life that you can feel in your body when you recall it? Why do you think it still has that charge?
I hadn’t seen an ex daddy for a few months and when he bootycalled me, I remember he asked what I was in the mood for, and I told him I wanted to be tied up and lightly tortured. That night he hog tied me on a chair as Twin Temple played in the background. He spanked and flogged me, hit me with his belt, and he made me squirt. It was also the first time he made me call him an honorific, and I picked daddy, which he liked. It was the first time I’d ever called anyone that and it felt very powerful. It was one of the most intense scenes I had done at that point, and it felt very sacred and intimate.